Beautiful things often come with sharp edges.

This much is true. Beautiful things often come with sharp edges. Wouldn’t you agree? The things we are most proud of, in love with, believe in, feel the most meaningful about often have some sharp edges to the story. The degree that took the single mother years to complete and meant she couldn’t make her kid’s class trips. The child … Read More

When we live up to our label we limit our self stories.

The label. When we live up to our label we limit our self stories. We define ourselves by (often) what others have claimed we are. We become internally restricted and strangle our own possibilities. What’s your label? Does it serve you? Are you holding yourself back and confining your reach all because of a word? SingleUneducatedObeseDivorcedDisabledInjuredDamagedDifficult… Or maybe your label … Read More

Maybe you should talk to someone.

Maybe you should talk to someone. Someone who can just hear you. All the things that you can’t say, yet really need to. Maybe you need to let it all out. Or find a way to let it all in. You’ve got the wisdom, you just need the space and the safety. I can be your guide, but it’s your … Read More

The Guest House

The Guest House “This being human is a guest house.Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness,some momentary awareness comesas an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all!Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,who violently sweep your houseempty of its furniture,still, treat each guest honorably.He may be clearing you outfor some new delight. The dark thought, … Read More

The relationship you were in yesterday is not the relationship you are in today.

Here’s what I know from the research, applied and experienced, as well as practicing as a couple’s counsellor: the relationship you were in yesterday is not the relationship you are in today. Just like you grow, learn and change so do your relationships. Relationships are not set in stone or frozen in time. They ebb and flow. Life events impact … Read More

Laundromats and laundry rooms.

Laundromats and laundry rooms. I’ve always had a fascination with them. I recall going to them as a child with my mother. Using them while camping, travelling, in side streets and luxury condos alike. The humidity and warmth. Odd socks left behind. Bulletin boards and soap dispensers. I’m interested in the stories of the people who use these places. Their … Read More

Our path. Our journey.

Some paths we pick. Others pick us. Our journey may be intentional or maybe it was by fate. Meticulously planned or accidental, either way, we are on it. Choices, decisions, uncertainty, regrets – this is our contract with life. Finding comfort with our path in life, by choice or by default, is the remedy to misery. Psychological surrender means not … Read More

“Sorting the laundry”

I have a process that I call “sorting the laundry”. By the time we reach out for help, be it coaching or counselling, we have usually waited – a long time. It’s usually a “final straw” that pushes us to make the appointment. And by the time we do, we don’t know where to even start. Overwhelmed is the predominant … Read More

If circa 1990 movies were your sex ed – you are not alone.

If circa 1990 movies were your sex ed – you are not alone. My area of counselling speciality is in sex and intimacy and I’m constantly amazed by the information I’m learning. Research is shaping our understanding of sexuality and yet for most, it’s an unspoken topic – ironically, especially among couples in long term relationships. Most of today’s adults … Read More

A lapse is not a relapse.

I have a confession to make. At times, the number on the scale still sends me into a spin. Total downward mental health spiral. I’ve largely overcome these old demons, but they tend to rise again. This is a hard confession to make because I work with so many who struggle with their weight and my focus is almost always … Read More