The story of your relationship

What is the story of your relationship? How do these stories help or hinder your life together? Is there a focus on just a few (negative) stories? Is the attention to a repetitive story, and ignoring of other ones, driving behaviour that is less than optimal? Sometimes our relational experience gets hijacked by our own old self stories that interfere … Read More

Narrative Therapy

On narrative therapy. Our lives are not single storied. They are multiple. Yet for so many of us, we get caught in one story. On repeat. One framework that we believe is the only truth. The one that defines us. The one the limits us. Like a building with many floors, we also have many stories but often get stuck … Read More

“Surrender” is not giving up

Uncontrollable circumstances call for surrender. In the psychological framework “surrender” is not giving up. It’s accepting what is. Embracing the reality that some things cannot be changed, undone or fixed. Surrender can provide a freedom and peace. It can be the pathway to greater joy, aliveness and effectiveness – no matter how traumatic the experience. What we resist, persists said … Read More

The “what has my life become” tired

I know what it feels like to hit this, head on. The “I’m so exhausted I don’t know even know where to fall feeling”. And then you look around and realize you don’t even have the luxury of falling anyhow. There’s a business to run, a job to do, people who have you on the “help” list, kids to drive … Read More

They keep coming back

Think a session sounds great but…it’s too expensive, too unknown, too luxurious, too embarrassing, too selfish, too scary, too much time? Well, that’s your call, but just ask my clients and you’ll get the truth 👍 Is a few hours and a small investment (that pays back immediately) that much, really? I’m not that scary…in fact some people keep coming … Read More

What makes your heart beat?

Maybe you had a goal. Had a plan. Had motivation. And maybe it’s gone flat. Maybe you wish you had a direction. A goal. A vision. A compass. Maybe you have a clear objective. A map. A deadline. But you can’t get mobilized around it anymore. Things are piling up and your focus is blurred. Coaching can help. In just … Read More

Be still.

Today I participated in the Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association’s Indigenous Sharing Circle. As a member, and an Indigenous practitioner, I felt drawn to the gathering and found myself arriving to it with some mixed emotion and anxiety. Things have taken a less than desirable turn for our nation in the last week as we face the variant head on. … Read More

Coping Strategies?

I will be right here, hanging on for dear life. Hanging on the knife edge most days and trying to just keep on going. Carrying on, carrying on. Anybody know what I mean? I’ve got about a 1000 coping strategies. A whole bunch of real shitty experiences that have made me “strong”. But I’m not real interested in radical positivity … Read More

As a coach

As a coach I’m focused on your potential while as a counsellor I’m focused on helping you be at peace with yourself and your life. As a coach I can recognise if it is old core beliefs stopping you in life and as a therapist I am also recognizing if it is anxiety, depression, ptsd, adult ADHD, or another mental … Read More

Counselling vs Coaching. What’s the difference?

I offer both counselling and coaching services. Both help you to move forward, overcome obstacles and achieve your personal or professional goals. So what’s the difference? In short coaching helps you set and achieve goals while counselling helps you recognize and solve your problems in life. As a coach I’m focused on your potential while as a counsellor I’m focused … Read More