Trauma in relationships. In more ways than one childhood trauma can impact your adult relationships. Never feeling safe, endless nervousness, conflict avoidance, fear of being abandoned, negative bias, unhealthy behaviours, unmanageable emotions, boundary violations, scarcity mindset, sexual challenges and constant worry – to name a few. When we are children we learn the necessary psychological survival skills. These almost never … Read More
Life gets messy. Life gets messy – doesn’t it? With love and loss and life a…
Life gets messy. Life gets messy – doesn’t it? With love and loss and life and death. And everything in between. Sadness. Addiction. Depression. Recovery and rising again. None of it comes calm and clear. A million dreams and hopes and just as heavy a dose of reality. Hard times. And sharpe truths. Plans that don’t work out and decisions … Read More
Things end. This is the truth. Good things. Bad things. Things we didn’t s…
Things end. This is the truth. Good things. Bad things. Things we didn’t see coming. And those we did. Beautiful moments. Painful moments. So… We move on. We close up. We finish. We complete. The key turns the lock. The papers singed. The house stands empty. The choir leaves the stage. The path now overgrown longer clear. And sometimes we … Read More
Wasted time. Things that I have wasted time on. (Expertise from a therapist)…
Wasted time. Things that I have wasted time on. (Expertise from a therapist) Perfectionism. Really, it’s such a waste of time. Because nobody and I mean nobody who ever mattered to me really cared. Obsessively thinking about my weight. About fat. Where it is. Where it isn’t. How to avoid it. How to control it. I’ve wasted literally years of … Read More
Counselling helps. Gotta complex story? Don’t worry, there’s a therapy for tha…
Counselling helps. Gotta complex story? Don’t worry, there’s a therapy for that. We all have a messy ball of string sorta story. The ones that twist and turn. But don’t worry, I can keep up. It’s not the story but what it means to you that matters. I’m good at helping you untangle the web. And once it’s all smoothed … Read More
New Year 2023 Realign: ~verb: To change or restore to a different or forme…
New Year 2023 Realign: ~verb: To change or restore to a different or former position or state. To change one’s position or attitude with regard to (a person, organization, or cause). What do you need to realign so that life can lived in alignment with your values, beliefs, goals, dreams and desires? Realign. It’s a verb. An action word. Are … Read More
What just happened? What just happened in that hour? You thought you had not…
What just happened? What just happened in that hour? You thought you had nothing new to talk about. It’s “maintenance” after all. The “I know I should but I don’t really want to” feeling. Believe me I get it. I’ve been in my own therapy journey most of my adult life. After the crisis when things start to get better, … Read More
Happy Holidays ! (?) Happy Holidays from the team at Momentum Counselling & Coa…
Happy Holidays ! (?) Happy Holidays from the team at Momentum Counselling & Coaching Services. By team, I mean Maple the “almost a therapy dog” and me. No matter what this time of year brings (or brings up for you), it’s temporal. So, if the days feel fast or slow, a new day is ahead. Wishing you bright days, peace … Read More
Season. “In this season so full of light there is a darkness that fills my hea…
Season. “In this season so full of light there is a darkness that fills my heart. I’m not alone, this much is known. Lights shine bright in others nights while mine looks on, rested upon.” So many who have held back the tears, drowning in smiles while the truth floats below the surface. The heartbreak of loss, the devastating decisions, … Read More
Why do I do this work? Hey, “it’s been a hot minute” as the cool kids say. I’m…
Why do I do this work? Hey, “it’s been a hot minute” as the cool kids say. I’m a 47 mother of two teens. I watch Coronation Street. That by virtue feels “not cool”. But in my mind, I’m soooo cool. If you haven’t guessed, it’s Catherine here from Momentum. Your on the edge, sometimes over the cliff, professional in … Read More