Communication. Being in a relationship and not saying what your think, want, expect and need is like driving on a busy freeway and trying to changing lanes – without signalling. Every time you try to move you get blocked. There are incidents and accidents. You keep struggling to get where you want to go. It’s an exercise in frustration and … Read More
Those moments. “Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing ag…
Those moments. “Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and awful it’s ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That’s just living heartbreaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life. And it’s breathtakingly beautiful.” L.R. Knost Find the … Read More
Trauma in relationships. In more ways than one childhood trauma can impact your…
Trauma in relationships. In more ways than one childhood trauma can impact your adult relationships. Never feeling safe, endless nervousness, conflict avoidance, fear of being abandoned, negative bias, unhealthy behaviours, unmanageable emotions, boundary violations, scarcity mindset, sexual challenges and constant worry – to name a few. When we are children we learn the necessary psychological survival skills. These almost never … Read More
Visibility In relationships we rarely see the wound, only the scar. What lie…
Visibility In relationships we rarely see the wound, only the scar. What lies deep beneath is what fuels the present. Where we come from, what our experiences were like as children, the social and political environment we live in, trauma, lived experiences, and the patriarchy all come with us into every relationship we form. Every. Single. One. That human you … Read More