What is the story of your relationship? How do these stories help or hinder your life together? Is there a focus on just a few (negative) stories?
Is the attention to a repetitive story, and ignoring of other ones, driving behaviour that is less than optimal?
Sometimes our relational experience gets hijacked by our own old self stories that interfere with maximizing our partnership.
Sometimes our relationships are impacted by an experience that becomes the dominant narrative, an unhealthy focus point. Then they repeat and keep repeating.
Think about what repetitive behaviours you experience in your relationship. Then think about the story that is being told about the experience and one another. How would a slight story line change things? How might you change your behaviour to change the story? What if your new story was about being on your partner’s side, being a friend, having warm regard?