Communication. Being in a relationship and not saying what your think, want, expect and need is like driving on a busy freeway and trying to changing lanes – without signalling. Every time you try to move you get blocked. There are incidents and accidents. You keep struggling to get where you want to go. It’s an exercise in frustration and … Read More
Decisions. We’ve never wanted more from “marriages” than we do now. Be it lega…
Decisions. We’ve never wanted more from “marriages” than we do now. Be it legally married or long term or common law, the expectations are massive. We want a soul mate, a best friend, excitement, stability, great sex, support, unconditional love. We want all our emotional and physical needs met in our marriages. Well, that’s just not realistic. Full stop. That’s … Read More
Those moments. “Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing ag…
Those moments. “Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and awful it’s ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That’s just living heartbreaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life. And it’s breathtakingly beautiful.” L.R. Knost Find the … Read More
The fight. It’s never about the schedule. The laundry. The dishes. The kids. W…
The fight. It’s never about the schedule. The laundry. The dishes. The kids. Who gets a break. It’s always about connection, recognition, power and control. If your fights sound the same, which they almost always do, stop and think about it. What need, vulnerability or bias is getting triggered again and again and again. Ask “what’s really going on here?” … Read More
Relationship advice. Here is some free relationship advice (from a human who i…
Relationship advice. Here is some free relationship advice (from a human who is in a relationship but routinely gets it wrong, but who happens to read, study and learn on this topic…). So, I’m an “expert” in theory, and struggle in practice, because like you I’m also human with a host of issues and lots of trauma. That said, here … Read More