Hey human. Hey human. Human with problems. With shame. With secrets. With fears. With insecurities. With wounds. With guilt. I see you. Your troubled heart. You are more than your human problems. More than your addictions. More than your illness. More than your diagnosis. More than your story. More than your trauma. More than your pain. More than what was … Read More
Re-parenting. A technique in time for blue Monday. If you grew up in home whe…
Re-parenting. A technique in time for blue Monday. If you grew up in home where you didn’t get the parenting you needed you might struggle with allowing yourself self kindness and compassion. Not to mention healthy life decisions and boundaries. Let me introduce the concept of re-parenting. The action of caring for yourself like a “good” parent would. Setting healthy … Read More
On self kindness. If your internal dialogue isn’t very nice, it’s very likely …
On self kindness. If your internal dialogue isn’t very nice, it’s very likely that if you spoke to other people the way you speak to yourself, well, you’d have no friends. That was stupid. Why do you always mess things up. What’s wrong with you? You are getting so fat. You are so ugly. You can’t ever get it right. … Read More
Burnout. In the book “Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny” by Kate Manne, a fasci…
Burnout. In the book “Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny” by Kate Manne, a fascinating concept is introduced: Human Giver Syndrome. Human Giver Syndrome is the belief that some people (the givers) are supposed to exist to put all of their energy into creating comfort and success for other people, and to be attractive and available, physically and emotionally, at … Read More
Physical and mental health link. For me, my mental health is inextricably link…
Physical and mental health link. For me, my mental health is inextricably linked to my physical health. It’s been that way likely all my life and after having children, I learned this fact…the hard way. My mental health deteriorated after having kids because my coping strategies, which were largely physical activity, was taxed due to responsibilities and a crushing weight … Read More
Reposting / sharing the sage wisdom of @compassionateinquiry In summary, traum…
Reposting / sharing the sage wisdom of @compassionateinquiry In summary, trauma changes the nervous system, it puts it into defensive mode, and it programs your relationships. Someone once said to me, “My mother was murdered when I was 6 months old, and now I am always alone. I can’t enter into relationships.” If your mother is murdered when you were … Read More
Questions The questions I get, every day: 1) what’s wrong with me? 2) when w…
Questions The questions I get, every day: 1) what’s wrong with me? 2) when will I stop being this way? 3) does that make sense? 4) why am I like this? 5) is there something wrong with me? Answers: 1) you are a human having a human experience, the full range of emotions and responses to this jagged life. 2) … Read More