The fight. It’s never about the schedule. The laundry. The dishes. The kids. Who gets a break. It’s always about connection, recognition, power and control. If your fights sound the same, which they almost always do, stop and think about it. What need, vulnerability or bias is getting triggered again and again and again. Ask “what’s really going on here?” … Read More
Trauma in relationships. In more ways than one childhood trauma can impact your…
Trauma in relationships. In more ways than one childhood trauma can impact your adult relationships. Never feeling safe, endless nervousness, conflict avoidance, fear of being abandoned, negative bias, unhealthy behaviours, unmanageable emotions, boundary violations, scarcity mindset, sexual challenges and constant worry – to name a few. When we are children we learn the necessary psychological survival skills. These almost never … Read More
Life gets messy. Life gets messy – doesn’t it? With love and loss and life a…
Life gets messy. Life gets messy – doesn’t it? With love and loss and life and death. And everything in between. Sadness. Addiction. Depression. Recovery and rising again. None of it comes calm and clear. A million dreams and hopes and just as heavy a dose of reality. Hard times. And sharpe truths. Plans that don’t work out and decisions … Read More
Things end. This is the truth. Good things. Bad things. Things we didn’t s…
Things end. This is the truth. Good things. Bad things. Things we didn’t see coming. And those we did. Beautiful moments. Painful moments. So… We move on. We close up. We finish. We complete. The key turns the lock. The papers singed. The house stands empty. The choir leaves the stage. The path now overgrown longer clear. And sometimes we … Read More
Wasted time. Things that I have wasted time on. (Expertise from a therapist)…
Wasted time. Things that I have wasted time on. (Expertise from a therapist) Perfectionism. Really, it’s such a waste of time. Because nobody and I mean nobody who ever mattered to me really cared. Obsessively thinking about my weight. About fat. Where it is. Where it isn’t. How to avoid it. How to control it. I’ve wasted literally years of … Read More
Counselling helps. Gotta complex story? Don’t worry, there’s a therapy for tha…
Counselling helps. Gotta complex story? Don’t worry, there’s a therapy for that. We all have a messy ball of string sorta story. The ones that twist and turn. But don’t worry, I can keep up. It’s not the story but what it means to you that matters. I’m good at helping you untangle the web. And once it’s all smoothed … Read More
Renew Renew Verb: To make like new : restore to freshness, vigor, or perfec…
Renew Renew Verb: To make like new : restore to freshness, vigor, or perfection. What can you renew in your life? If you renewed a prior activity, behaviour, or mindset how would this get you more of what you want in life? What would the benefit be? We all stop doing things. It’s not a crime or a deficiency it’s … Read More
New Year 2023 Realign: ~verb: To change or restore to a different or forme…
New Year 2023 Realign: ~verb: To change or restore to a different or former position or state. To change one’s position or attitude with regard to (a person, organization, or cause). What do you need to realign so that life can lived in alignment with your values, beliefs, goals, dreams and desires? Realign. It’s a verb. An action word. Are … Read More
The over thinker. Overthinking involves thinking about a certain topic or situ…
The over thinker. Overthinking involves thinking about a certain topic or situation excessively, analyzing it for long periods of time. When you overthink, you have a hard time getting your mind to focus on anything else. Often cited as a loop, it is almost always unproductive. Many believe that overthinking is a benefit since it involves looking at an issue … Read More
What just happened? What just happened in that hour? You thought you had not…
What just happened? What just happened in that hour? You thought you had nothing new to talk about. It’s “maintenance” after all. The “I know I should but I don’t really want to” feeling. Believe me I get it. I’ve been in my own therapy journey most of my adult life. After the crisis when things start to get better, … Read More