The fight. It’s never about the schedule. The laundry. The dishes. The kids. W…

The fight. It’s never about the schedule. The laundry. The dishes. The kids. Who gets a break. It’s always about connection, recognition, power and control. If your fights sound the same, which they almost always do, stop and think about it. What need, vulnerability or bias is getting triggered again and again and again. Ask “what’s really going on here?” … Read More

Trauma in relationships. In more ways than one childhood trauma can impact your…

Trauma in relationships. In more ways than one childhood trauma can impact your adult relationships. Never feeling safe, endless nervousness, conflict avoidance, fear of being abandoned, negative bias, unhealthy behaviours, unmanageable emotions, boundary violations, scarcity mindset, sexual challenges and constant worry – to name a few. When we are children we learn the necessary psychological survival skills. These almost never … Read More

Things end. This is the truth. Good things. Bad things. Things we didn’t s…

Things end. This is the truth. Good things. Bad things. Things we didn’t see coming. And those we did. Beautiful moments. Painful moments. So… We move on. We close up. We finish. We complete. The key turns the lock. The papers singed. The house stands empty. The choir leaves the stage. The path now overgrown longer clear. And sometimes we … Read More

Wasted time. Things that I have wasted time on. (Expertise from a therapist)…

Wasted time. Things that I have wasted time on. (Expertise from a therapist) Perfectionism. Really, it’s such a waste of time. Because nobody and I mean nobody who ever mattered to me really cared. Obsessively thinking about my weight. About fat. Where it is. Where it isn’t. How to avoid it. How to control it. I’ve wasted literally years of … Read More

New Year 2023 Realign: ~verb: To change or restore to a different or forme…

New Year 2023 Realign: ~verb: To change or restore to a different or former position or state. To change one’s position or attitude with regard to (a person, organization, or cause). What do you need to realign so that life can lived in alignment with your values, beliefs, goals, dreams and desires? Realign. It’s a verb. An action word. Are … Read More

The over thinker. Overthinking involves thinking about a certain topic or situ…

The over thinker. Overthinking involves thinking about a certain topic or situation excessively, analyzing it for long periods of time. When you overthink, you have a hard time getting your mind to focus on anything else. Often cited as a loop, it is almost always unproductive. Many believe that overthinking is a benefit since it involves looking at an issue … Read More