If circa 1990 movies were your sex ed – you are not alone. My area of counselling speciality is in sex and intimacy and I’m constantly amazed by the information I’m learning. Research is shaping our understanding of sexuality and yet for most, it’s an unspoken topic – ironically, especially among couples in long term relationships. Most of today’s adults … Read More
A lapse is not a relapse.
I have a confession to make. At times, the number on the scale still sends me into a spin. Total downward mental health spiral. I’ve largely overcome these old demons, but they tend to rise again. This is a hard confession to make because I work with so many who struggle with their weight and my focus is almost always … Read More
Relationships.
Relationships. ♾ Some people come into our life for a reason. ♾ Some people come into our life for a season. ♾ Some people come into our life for a lifetime. All have a purpose. Sometimes known, often not. We are relational creatures. Human relationships are our most powerful experiences. The legacy lives on, impacting us and changing our trajectory. … Read More
Trauma is the response
If you have ever experienced a traumatic event of any kind then you might have times when unwanted images or, more severely, “flashbacks” invade your mind. These are alarming and upsetting, to say the least. Not an uncommon symptom of trauma, flashbacks can be powerful and it can feel just like the event is happening again. Flashbacks are a symptom … Read More
Not “enough”
For much of life I lived with the belief that I was not “enough”. Never smart enough, talented enough, attractive enough, thin enough, successful enough. I bought into this belief and lived up to it. I found myself in bad situations, poor relationships with consequences and limited coping skills. I was a victim of a story. A story that was … Read More
It is only at the end that we begin once again.
It is only at the end that we begin once again. The end of the dream.The end of the job.The end of the relationship.The end of time.The end of the visit.The end of the business.The end of the day.The end of the move.The end of the life. That is where we begin. Not with grace or ease or comfort. Not … Read More
What can one session do?
What can one session do? ♾Change your perspective.♾Change your mindset.♾Change your trajectory.♾Change your story.♾Change your future. Just. One. Session. Imagine what a few could do! Stuck? Uncertain? Questioning? Anxious? Grieving? There’s a session for that.
Some things we never get over.
After more than 20 years in the helping profession there’s not much that I haven’t heard. The stories and experiences that have been shared have brought me into realms of pain, grief, joy, shame, guilt, enlightenment, resilience, awareness, healing, trauma and recovery. The sheer power of the human experience and spirit never ceases to amaze me. I’ve learned that we … Read More
We have a choice
Today I am reminded… “Everything can be taken from a (man/woman) but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” – Viktor Frankl Many of us are suffering. Many of us feel as though we are running on fumes. Many of us are uncertain. Many of … Read More
Don’t let your own growth be contingent on your relationships.
As couples we tend to organize ourselves around roles or “reciprocal positions” that are complimentary to one another. These behaviours allows couples to function is a fairly predictable way. Think about your relationship and identify the roles you and your partner(s) play. The optimist and the realist. The excitable one and the level one. The introvert and the extrovert. The … Read More