Be the buffalo. When a storm is on the horizon and imminent, buffalo, unlike most other mammals, run towards the storm. They run directly into the very centre of the discomfort. They seem to prefer to face distress head on. Minimizing the time waiting in unproductive panic. They do not avoid the inevitable or pretend it is not there. Rather … Read More
Season. “In this season so full of light there is a darkness that fills my hea…
Season. “In this season so full of light there is a darkness that fills my heart. I’m not alone, this much is known. Lights shine bright in others nights while mine looks on, rested upon.” So many who have held back the tears, drowning in smiles while the truth floats below the surface. The heartbreak of loss, the devastating decisions, … Read More
When you can’t say goodbye When you can’t say goodbye In the way you wanted …
When you can’t say goodbye When you can’t say goodbye In the way you wanted or even at all Maybe no chance given or no voice to be found Robbed of a moment, a cruel theft of that one second, for one last look, embrace, smile No over the shoulder “I see you” moment The earth shifts This is the … Read More
These words. These are the words I cling to. It feels like the mantra of my li…
These words. These are the words I cling to. It feels like the mantra of my life. A manifesto. Because life is amazing. The moments of illumination. And the moments of such devastation, the pain and loss is endless. And then it’s beautiful once more. The light comes thru the cracks of my soul and the stained glass of my … Read More
Grief Grief is necessary. It is a critical part of love. It cannot be separate…
Grief Grief is necessary. It is a critical part of love. It cannot be separated from loss. If you are grieving it is because you loved so deeply. We want to move through grief quickly, untangling the hold it has upon us. But the more we try to bypass, the more entangled we become. Grief, like love, is an emotion. … Read More
I know you think you’re breaking in half. The thing that has cracked you open an…
I know you think you’re breaking in half. The thing that has cracked you open and pulls you down, feels eternal. But you, my friend, were designed for this. To love and break and live to tell the tale. Maybe, if you are lucky, to do it all over again. We were made to find the magic and then hold … Read More
Trigger warning When you own a business you are “told” directly or indirectly…
Trigger warning ⚠️ When you own a business you are “told” directly or indirectly to stay silent on matters of political, religious or socially contentious issues. And this is especially true as a therapist because I don’t want to alienate anyone; I value diversity of human beliefs and I’m trained to keep my countertransference and biases in line. I can’t … Read More
On grief. I have learned that somethings I will grieve forever. Loss takes sh…
On grief. I have learned that somethings I will grieve forever. Loss takes shape in so many forms. Showing up often as an uninvited guest. Some pain we never truly get over or past but rather we grow around it, encapsulating it in our soul. We learn to move forward, despite ourselves. Some grief is laced with guilt and shame, … Read More
Saying goodbye. Just a pet? No way. “Just” isn’t a word that should be att…
Saying goodbye. Just a pet? No way. “Just” isn’t a word that should be attached to a beloved member of your family, extension of your self or best friend. Our hearts break in two when we have to say goodbye, often made more complex when we are the ones making the decision. Grief knows no form, and is as real … Read More