Reclamation & Revolution The reclamation begins as a whisper. A thought so foreign and intangible it floats by, fleeting and quickly escaping. The hunger for it resisted. The hunger for anything resisted. Muted, like every emotion you have felt or are afraid to feel. Stuffed down and filling you but never offering a fullness. It’s that fullness you avoid, anyhow. … Read More
I know you think you’re breaking in half. The thing that has cracked you open an…
I know you think you’re breaking in half. The thing that has cracked you open and pulls you down, feels eternal. But you, my friend, were designed for this. To love and break and live to tell the tale. Maybe, if you are lucky, to do it all over again. We were made to find the magic and then hold … Read More
Virtual therapy I see people in their offices. In parked cars. Sitting on the…
Virtual therapy I see people in their offices. In parked cars. Sitting on their deck. With toddlers on their lap. Couples in their living rooms. Hiding in bathrooms for privacy. In locked bedrooms sitting in their bed. In various time zones and provinces. Sometimes, more often than you’d think, I only hear voices on the other line of the phone. … Read More
Relational brain. Interpersonal neurobiology is the study of how our brains and…
Relational brain. Interpersonal neurobiology is the study of how our brains and central nervous system are developed through childhood relationships and how these relationships, imprinted into our psyche, impact and influence our neurobiology as adults. It’s been proven that we can co-regulate one another’s nervous systems. I do it everyday with my clients. Influencing cortisol (stress hormones – not all … Read More
Posted @withregram • @cjspennington The Calvary. You are going through hard ti…
Posted @withregram • @cjspennington The Calvary. You are going through hard times. And you reach out to your “Calvary”. You know, those people who come at the ready to defend you and always have your back. Family or friends. They feel what you feel, couldn’t agree more, and validate your feelings. They cry with you. Elevate you. Save you. Tell … Read More
Hope. Is hope for the privileged? Is it a viable currency for those who have …
Hope. Is hope for the privileged? Is it a viable currency for those who have had to orchestrate and architect every action in their life to survive? Is hope a fantasy for those who chose strategy over “winged things”? Is hope all that we have or is it a risk not worth taking, because certainty trumps possibility? Is that sad … Read More
We humans. Welcome. To having issues. To making mistakes and then making m…
We humans. Welcome. To having issues. To making mistakes and then making more. To learning, unlearning and relearning. To failing and succeeding. Succeeding and failing. To joy and anguish. And everything in between. To growing up and growing strong. To wasting time and wasting away. To self doubt and self criticism and self love and self compassion. To intense love … Read More
On self kindness. If your internal dialogue isn’t very nice, it’s very likely …
On self kindness. If your internal dialogue isn’t very nice, it’s very likely that if you spoke to other people the way you speak to yourself, well, you’d have no friends. That was stupid. Why do you always mess things up. What’s wrong with you? You are getting so fat. You are so ugly. You can’t ever get it right. … Read More
Courage. The brave souls who book the appointment and invite another into thei…
Courage. The brave souls who book the appointment and invite another into their story are perhaps the most courageous people I’ve ever met. Brave conversations take a willingness to be deeply vulnerable. They take trust, even when in short supply. They require openness and equal parts vast discomfort. Brave space conversations require collaboration and joint curiosity. Together we fill the … Read More
Burnout. In the book “Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny” by Kate Manne, a fasci…
Burnout. In the book “Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny” by Kate Manne, a fascinating concept is introduced: Human Giver Syndrome. Human Giver Syndrome is the belief that some people (the givers) are supposed to exist to put all of their energy into creating comfort and success for other people, and to be attractive and available, physically and emotionally, at … Read More