Beautiful struggle.

Beautiful struggle. The things we are most proud of, in love with, believe in, feel the most meaningful about often have some sharp edges to the story. The degree that took the single mother years to complete and meant she couldn’t make her kid’s class trips. The child that took so many years to conceive. The promotion that meant a … Read More

About Marriage

Marriage as we generally know it is a template that’s socially inherited. We are provided an antiquated construct of what it “should” look like – man, woman, children, monogamous, forever. The social marker of happiness. ⁣⁣But over 40% of them end because not one shoe fits us all. And it sure hurts when it’s forced. ⁣⁣It’s time to mindfully examine … Read More

Dealing with Relationship Conflict in the Moment

“How do I deal with relationship conflict in the moment?” ⁣⁣It all starts with a deep breath to calm the panic that hits the nervous system. ⁣⁣Then these words “open mind, closed mouth”. The more we listen the more we learn. And learning allows us to understand the needs behind the emotion. ⁣⁣Listening generously does not mean standing down in … Read More

Who’s running your schedule?

Are you running the schedule? Or is the schedule running you? ⁣⁣What starts off feeling like a sense of order and control ends up feeling like a “five-years-less a day” jail sentence. It takes us from being in the moment to thinking (and worrying) about the next and the next and the next. It feels frantic and intense and the … Read More

“Move a muscle. Change a thought.”

“Move a muscle. Change a thought.”⁣⁣⁣⁣I love this cognitive behavioural principle. The cycle for me (and most humans) is getting stuck in rumination and overthinking, which leads to worry, sadness, or challenging feelings and then typically less than optimal behaviour (more wine, salty food, cake, Netflix binge anyone?…). ⁣⁣⁣⁣We tend to think that we just have to think differently or … Read More

Journey of Eating Disorder Recovery

The journey of eating disorder recovery has been a long one. And I’m still on it. ⁣⁣Like many, I’ve hid my ED from people in my life. Too ashamed and embarrassed to talk about “it”. But over the last decade I’ve started sharing my experiences and story and become committed to recovery. No surprise it correlates with the birth of … Read More

Overcome Body Image Issues

I’ve starved this body. Shamed it. Hid it. Worked it to the brink. Told myself I wasn’t good enough. Too fat. Too thin. Too flat. Too short. The list goes on. ⁣⁣Eating disorders like body dysmorphia, obsessions with weight and perfection are complex mental health issues. Fed by diet culture, social expectations, perfectionism, trauma, family issues and among other factors … Read More

Be Patient

“Be patient where you sit in the dark, the dawn is coming.” Rumi ⁣⁣800 years later, Rumi was onto something so relevant – even more fitting today maybe. It’s hard to hold discomfort. But what’s that light in the distance? Growth, advancement, awareness? Nothing worth having comes without some kind struggle. ⁣⁣Learning to hold and make space for uncertainty, anxiety, … Read More

You are so much more than just one story

You are so much more than just one story. ⁣⁣Rumination, the same series of thoughts and feelings on repeat, can get in our way of acceleration and prevent us from even taking one step forward. But you are so much more than those stuck thoughts, feelings and behaviours. ⁣⁣You are truly infinite. Capable of so much more than you are … Read More