Relationships. As a couples therapist I want to say something to everyone in a relationship: Relationships change over time. They have to. Because… You change over time, constantly in development from year to year. It’s called lifespan development. Milestones change us. Children, jobs, self awareness, failures, lessons, life events. Your partner changes, just like you. And because of this, our … Read More
Revolution. The revolution will start internal. When you come to the place w…
Revolution. The revolution will start internal. When you come to the place where you can hold space. For your truth. For your needs. For your voice. For your age. For your thighs. For every mistake and regret. For all that is you. The revolution belongs to you. You will rage quietly or loudly against the social structures and the messages … Read More
Hope. Is hope for the privileged? Is it a viable currency for those who have …
Hope. Is hope for the privileged? Is it a viable currency for those who have had to orchestrate and architect every action in their life to survive? Is hope a fantasy for those who chose strategy over “winged things”? Is hope all that we have or is it a risk not worth taking, because certainty trumps possibility? Is that sad … Read More
Blue Monday. On Monday, January 17th we will have reached “Blue Monday”. The t…
Blue Monday. On Monday, January 17th we will have reached “Blue Monday”. The third Monday in January is dubbed the most depressing day of the year. A combination of post holiday reality, dark days and long nights, and colder weather prevail. Not to mention the holiday bills and the reality that most New Year’s resolutions don’t make it past this … Read More
On self kindness. If your internal dialogue isn’t very nice, it’s very likely …
On self kindness. If your internal dialogue isn’t very nice, it’s very likely that if you spoke to other people the way you speak to yourself, well, you’d have no friends. That was stupid. Why do you always mess things up. What’s wrong with you? You are getting so fat. You are so ugly. You can’t ever get it right. … Read More
Courage. The brave souls who book the appointment and invite another into thei…
Courage. The brave souls who book the appointment and invite another into their story are perhaps the most courageous people I’ve ever met. Brave conversations take a willingness to be deeply vulnerable. They take trust, even when in short supply. They require openness and equal parts vast discomfort. Brave space conversations require collaboration and joint curiosity. Together we fill the … Read More
Burnout. In the book “Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny” by Kate Manne, a fasci…
Burnout. In the book “Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny” by Kate Manne, a fascinating concept is introduced: Human Giver Syndrome. Human Giver Syndrome is the belief that some people (the givers) are supposed to exist to put all of their energy into creating comfort and success for other people, and to be attractive and available, physically and emotionally, at … Read More
Saying goodbye. Just a pet? No way. “Just” isn’t a word that should be att…
Saying goodbye. Just a pet? No way. “Just” isn’t a word that should be attached to a beloved member of your family, extension of your self or best friend. Our hearts break in two when we have to say goodbye, often made more complex when we are the ones making the decision. Grief knows no form, and is as real … Read More
Introductions. I’m Catherine. The counselling therapist and coach of “Momentum…
Introductions. I’m Catherine. The counselling therapist and coach of “Momentum”. Facts about me: 🗝I’m a mom. Not always a super mom. (But sometimes I am.) 🗝I’m Indigenous. Born to the Metis Nation of Saskatchewan in Duck Lake,SK – and now a citizen of Metis Nation of BC. 🗝My true annoyance includes people not knowing who (or what) the Metis people … Read More
Stories. Hey…so if you follow me you’ll know we are all about “stories” here a…
Stories. Hey…so if you follow me you’ll know we are all about “stories” here at Momentum. I specialize in what’s called Narrative Therapy. A form of post modern therapy (thanks UVic!) that looks at the stories we construct in our lives and how we organize around them. I’m strength based which means I also see you as the expert in … Read More