Counselling helps. Gotta complex story? Don’t worry, there’s a therapy for that. We all have a messy ball of string sorta story. The ones that twist and turn. But don’t worry, I can keep up. It’s not the story but what it means to you that matters. I’m good at helping you untangle the web. And once it’s all smoothed … Read More
Visibility In relationships we rarely see the wound, only the scar. What lie…
Visibility In relationships we rarely see the wound, only the scar. What lies deep beneath is what fuels the present. Where we come from, what our experiences were like as children, the social and political environment we live in, trauma, lived experiences, and the patriarchy all come with us into every relationship we form. Every. Single. One. That human you … Read More
Virtual therapy I see people in their offices. In parked cars. Sitting on the…
Virtual therapy I see people in their offices. In parked cars. Sitting on their deck. With toddlers on their lap. Couples in their living rooms. Hiding in bathrooms for privacy. In locked bedrooms sitting in their bed. In various time zones and provinces. Sometimes, more often than you’d think, I only hear voices on the other line of the phone. … Read More
Relationships. As a couples therapist I want to say something to everyone in a…
Relationships. As a couples therapist I want to say something to everyone in a relationship: Relationships change over time. They have to. Because… You change over time, constantly in development from year to year. It’s called lifespan development. Milestones change us. Children, jobs, self awareness, failures, lessons, life events. Your partner changes, just like you. And because of this, our … Read More
Blue Monday. On Monday, January 17th we will have reached “Blue Monday”. The t…
Blue Monday. On Monday, January 17th we will have reached “Blue Monday”. The third Monday in January is dubbed the most depressing day of the year. A combination of post holiday reality, dark days and long nights, and colder weather prevail. Not to mention the holiday bills and the reality that most New Year’s resolutions don’t make it past this … Read More
On self kindness. If your internal dialogue isn’t very nice, it’s very likely …
On self kindness. If your internal dialogue isn’t very nice, it’s very likely that if you spoke to other people the way you speak to yourself, well, you’d have no friends. That was stupid. Why do you always mess things up. What’s wrong with you? You are getting so fat. You are so ugly. You can’t ever get it right. … Read More
Courage. The brave souls who book the appointment and invite another into thei…
Courage. The brave souls who book the appointment and invite another into their story are perhaps the most courageous people I’ve ever met. Brave conversations take a willingness to be deeply vulnerable. They take trust, even when in short supply. They require openness and equal parts vast discomfort. Brave space conversations require collaboration and joint curiosity. Together we fill the … Read More