Reposting / sharing the sage wisdom of @compassionateinquiry In summary, trauma changes the nervous system, it puts it into defensive mode, and it programs your relationships. Someone once said to me, “My mother was murdered when I was 6 months old, and now I am always alone. I can’t enter into relationships.” If your mother is murdered when you were … Read More
Until. Here’s what I’ve learned in working for over 20 years in the helping pr…
Until. Here’s what I’ve learned in working for over 20 years in the helping profession (and through my own struggles): Until you deal with thing(s) that are holding you back, tethering you to old survival skills and behaviour that no longer benefits you, you will be held back from truly growing into your potential. Sure, you may be successful and … Read More
More than a few chapters. In the story that is my life I’ve experienced many c…
More than a few chapters. In the story that is my life I’ve experienced many chapters. Like many of you, some chapters are pretty awful. I’ve survived: Childhood traumas Eating disorder Parentification Victimization Learning disability Poverty Relationship violence Emotional / psychological abuse Dysfunctional family patterns Where I’ve been is not where I am today. Those chapters will not define me. … Read More
Let’s not normalize more recoveries. #everychildmatters…
Let’s not normalize more recoveries. #everychildmatters Source
Questions The questions I get, every day: 1) what’s wrong with me? 2) when w…
Questions The questions I get, every day: 1) what’s wrong with me? 2) when will I stop being this way? 3) does that make sense? 4) why am I like this? 5) is there something wrong with me? Answers: 1) you are a human having a human experience, the full range of emotions and responses to this jagged life. 2) … Read More
Last week I had the opportunity to sit down with @john.a.brink for his @brink_g…
Last week I had the opportunity to sit down with @john.a.brink for his @brink_group podcast called “On the Brink”. It was one of those conversations that stays with you. From survive to thrive is the story of John, living in a war zone and then immigrating to Canada, he’s open about his own struggles with ADHD, PTSD and his experiences … Read More
Books I always have 8-12 books my bedside table that I’m reading. Yes, at the s…
Books I always have 8-12 books my bedside table that I’m reading. Yes, at the same time. I know this makes some of you linear / organized / process oriented folk uncomfortable but it’s my style. A little bit of all, all the time. My therapist brain allows me to keep track 😜. Here’s a few worth sharing: “Stolen Focus: … Read More
Women’s Day “Gender inequality is one of the oldest and most pervasive forms of…
Women’s Day “Gender inequality is one of the oldest and most pervasive forms of inequality in the world. It denies women their voices, devalues their work and make women’s position unequal to men’s, from the household to the national and global levels. Despite some important progress to change this in recent years, in no country have women achieved economic equality … Read More
Under water or on the rise? Sometimes I can’t tell the difference between feel…
Under water or on the rise? Sometimes I can’t tell the difference between feeling under water with workload, stress, self doubt and the feeling of coming up for air, cresting the high water mark, and rising above until that moment I realize, “I’m ok again”. That’s because the energy it takes to rise up, resist the default setting and fight … Read More
