Crisis Crisis is the mother of (re)invention of the self. You can’t go back after a crisis because you are changed. But not necessarily for the worse. Did you know that personality is not set? In 2012 academics found as many participants as possible of a Scottish study conducted in 1947 on personality. At the time of the study, participants … Read More
Relationship advice. Here is some free relationship advice (from a human who i…
Relationship advice. Here is some free relationship advice (from a human who is in a relationship but routinely gets it wrong, but who happens to read, study and learn on this topic…). So, I’m an “expert” in theory, and struggle in practice, because like you I’m also human with a host of issues and lots of trauma. That said, here … Read More
Relational brain. Interpersonal neurobiology is the study of how our brains and…
Relational brain. Interpersonal neurobiology is the study of how our brains and central nervous system are developed through childhood relationships and how these relationships, imprinted into our psyche, impact and influence our neurobiology as adults. It’s been proven that we can co-regulate one another’s nervous systems. I do it everyday with my clients. Influencing cortisol (stress hormones – not all … Read More
Posted @withregram • @cjspennington The Calvary. You are going through hard ti…
Posted @withregram • @cjspennington The Calvary. You are going through hard times. And you reach out to your “Calvary”. You know, those people who come at the ready to defend you and always have your back. Family or friends. They feel what you feel, couldn’t agree more, and validate your feelings. They cry with you. Elevate you. Save you. Tell … Read More
Revolution. The revolution will start internal. When you come to the place w…
Revolution. The revolution will start internal. When you come to the place where you can hold space. For your truth. For your needs. For your voice. For your age. For your thighs. For every mistake and regret. For all that is you. The revolution belongs to you. You will rage quietly or loudly against the social structures and the messages … Read More
On grief. I have learned that somethings I will grieve forever. Loss takes sh…
On grief. I have learned that somethings I will grieve forever. Loss takes shape in so many forms. Showing up often as an uninvited guest. Some pain we never truly get over or past but rather we grow around it, encapsulating it in our soul. We learn to move forward, despite ourselves. Some grief is laced with guilt and shame, … Read More
We humans. Welcome. To having issues. To making mistakes and then making m…
We humans. Welcome. To having issues. To making mistakes and then making more. To learning, unlearning and relearning. To failing and succeeding. Succeeding and failing. To joy and anguish. And everything in between. To growing up and growing strong. To wasting time and wasting away. To self doubt and self criticism and self love and self compassion. To intense love … Read More
Book review! Love this book. Dives into 87 emotions and explains them in perf…
Book review! Love this book. Dives into 87 emotions and explains them in perfect form. “Language is our portal to meaning making, connection, healing, learning and self awareness”(#brenebrown) Highly recommend this read. Explains connection and the “near enemies” of connection – the things that get in the way of authenticity in relationships. Santa seems to know me…😎 #bookrecommendations #bookreview #greatread … Read More
Danger… Like clockwork, this is the time of year when the “new you” sales ma…
Danger… Like clockwork, this is the time of year when the “new you” sales machines start to fire up. Take this shake. Use this supplement. Do this workout. Detox. Macros. Micros. We get sold on a new body. New life. New start. Be a cautious consumer. Consider what is really worth it … Read More
Re-parenting. A technique in time for blue Monday. If you grew up in home whe…
Re-parenting. A technique in time for blue Monday. If you grew up in home where you didn’t get the parenting you needed you might struggle with allowing yourself self kindness and compassion. Not to mention healthy life decisions and boundaries. Let me introduce the concept of re-parenting. The action of caring for yourself like a “good” parent would. Setting healthy … Read More