Those moments. “Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing ag…

Those moments. “Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and awful it’s ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That’s just living heartbreaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life. And it’s breathtakingly beautiful.” L.R. Knost Find the … Read More

The fight. It’s never about the schedule. The laundry. The dishes. The kids. W…

The fight. It’s never about the schedule. The laundry. The dishes. The kids. Who gets a break. It’s always about connection, recognition, power and control. If your fights sound the same, which they almost always do, stop and think about it. What need, vulnerability or bias is getting triggered again and again and again. Ask “what’s really going on here?” … Read More

If you’ve felt a love like this. You know. You never forget. That moment y…

If you’ve felt a love like this. You know. You never forget. That moment your heart took flight. Here’s to a life that finds new dimensions. To hearts that bear the crushing weight and go back for more. To love and loss and everything in between. #love #couples #relationships #lovers #bestfriends #growth   Source

Visibility In relationships we rarely see the wound, only the scar. What lie…

Visibility In relationships we rarely see the wound, only the scar. What lies deep beneath is what fuels the present. Where we come from, what our experiences were like as children, the social and political environment we live in, trauma, lived experiences, and the patriarchy all come with us into every relationship we form. Every. Single. One. That human you … Read More

Relationships. As a couples therapist I want to say something to everyone in a…

Relationships. As a couples therapist I want to say something to everyone in a relationship: Relationships change over time. They have to. Because… You change over time, constantly in development from year to year. It’s called lifespan development. Milestones change us. Children, jobs, self awareness, failures, lessons, life events. Your partner changes, just like you. And because of this, our … Read More

Sensitive partners. Learning to love a sensitive partner. The sensitive part…

Sensitive partners. Learning to love a sensitive partner. The sensitive partner will hear every word. Will absorb every comment. Will read your every move and likely read into it, to. Your sharp response, unbridled self expression, frustration and displacement will be taken personally. They will typically retreat over retaliate, over think, wound easily and hold onto the things you think … Read More