The fight.
It’s never about the schedule. The laundry. The dishes. The kids. Who gets a break.
It’s always about connection, recognition, power and control.
If your fights sound the same, which they almost always do, stop and think about it. What need, vulnerability or bias is getting triggered again and again and again. Ask “what’s really going on here?” Be brave enough to get to the deeper level.
What would happen if you really dealt with what was really going on? How would a new approach change the shitty loop you are in?
Think you can’t change your relationship on your own because your partner won’t go to therapy (and really the issue is with them, right?) well think again. You my friend can change your relationships immediately by your actions alone.
Change it up. Get a new pattern. This one isn’t working.
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